Sunday, April 8, 2018

Hello mommy! ( Cool tips for a New mommy) #mommy #nappy #diapers #smile #babycoo #parenting #counselling #nursing


#mommy #nappy #diapers #smile #babycoo #parenting #counselling #nursing

Hello mommy! ( Cool tips for a New mommy)
Congrats! Welcome to a beautiful world of parenting. Being a new mommy is such an exciting phase! For new dads too, it is a mixed feeling of awe, responsibility and it is the most cherished moment.  The new born twirls everyone around his/her little finger and is certainly a VIP here. A new mom is sure to be flustered with a new regime, diet and lots of do’s and don’ts from well-wishers. I would always say do what the doctor tells you. Life skills begin in a new way as you change a diaper, delicately avoid the fontanel and try to keep the baby warm and cosy. One tip is to learn how to massage the baby as this is the best form of bonding between the mother and child.

You must be sore and slightly uncomfortable.  But we moms are blessed with a super strength almost like the wolverine to phase out stronger than before, each time we are bruised. In fact, the day will go in a blur, especially if you have lots of people visiting you. I would say despite all of it that is whizzing around you, make time to engage in a simple breathing exercise or even chants. Actually, do whatever is comfortable. This is a habit you can set for say about 10 minutes a day, so that from now on, as your child grows and however demanding the day gets, you have shelved 10 minutes of peaceful me-time. Focus on yourself too!

Are the clothes all about baggy pants, comfy T shirts and loose palazzos?  Ah yes, that is quite an adjustment especially when you browse through your work clothes. Also have you looked into the new outfits designed especially for nursing moms? Albeit, please remember this is just a passing phase. You have done well till now and be proud of that. I would always recommend a new mom to get a good haircut, go for an olive oil massage for the nails or a simple hair spa at home. Engage in a beautician who is willing to deliver services at home at a time that is convenient to you. The accentuation is to feel good as you may be home bound for a few weeks.

One major change is diet. Nutritious food does not mean letting go of your favourite meals. You need more calories as you are nourishing your child. It is certain that you might pile on a few kilos but in a few months you can engage in a fitness regime or try out special exercises to target the flabby areas. Everything is so perfect when you see your baby growing or sleeping blissfully. Enjoy the babycoos and click lots of pictures.


Wednesday, April 4, 2018

After the baby shower - #last trimester #newborn #birthing #newmom #counselling #parenting #parent


After the baby shower
Congratulations ! Hope the baby shower was great? So, the time is nearing and you find yourself being emotional? Your brain is multi-tasking, but the heart is yearning to hold the new born. Ah! Too many things to do, yet this is the time to relax. Brace yourself for the future, as much awaits you in terms of fulfillment, happiness and learning.

The feeling slowly envelopes you, that life is about to change. For a few years from now, your posts may not be about TGIF or a weekend party. By now you must have received so much advice about birthing, new born parenting dilemmas and struggle stories from the autobiographies of your relatives and friends; but you must know that ‘Parenting’ is a very subjective and personal experience.

Your challenges and moments of joy will be a unique learning experience. Thus, learn from others, but do not compare yourself with another mother. This you may start now, so please do not compare your third trimester bump with another mom-to-be. We are all endowed with different body types, threshold level for pain, parenting ideas and also personal ambitions. The bottom line is be ‘you’!

Parenting starts the moment you conceive and the responsibility begins at the same time. So planning is the key. Take care of yourself by looking for care givers, support at home, a dedicated helper and heed the advice of your gynecologist. Once these things are in place, with the help of your spouse and with your own motherly instincts you will sail through easily.  Also, remember that broken sleep happens ONLY if your child is not sleeping overnight. It is not a generalization. But all of it settles down in about 2-3 months.

Find ways to unwind for e.g. be it a book, some kind of art work, quilling, soulful music or reading up a cookery book. It is a myth that new moms are all spent and tired. If it is well managed, parenting begins with a zest and continues with a lot of happiness. For now, just be yourself, rest, go for the walk around the block, chat with a friend, accept help from the family and fall in love again with your spouse .


Monday, February 5, 2018

Kamakshi Gupte #borivaliwest #counselling #psychologist #literary #workshops



I am Kamakshi Gupte, a writer, dreamer, teacher, mother, wife and a counselling psychologist. I am also an NLP Therapist- Neuro Linguistic Programming (Richard Bandlers’certificate) and a Graphoanalyst.

What I love most is parenting, as this is one role where we err as humans and we need to learn, unlearn and re-learn new ways of being a cool parent.

It was an epic shift for me when I quit a banking career and essayed the role of a parent. I admit, I have also attempted to cut my toddlers’ hair as going to the salon was a phobic feat. So, as I changed from being a banker to a barber, I learnt that the challenge to be a good parent is endless. The joy too grows in multitude as we nurture our children.

I often wonder, if good parenting ever exists and I am not sure yet. Perhaps the only way to be a good parent is to be a ‘cool’ parent.

I present the thecoolparentingguide – a blog that expresses the various stages and situations a child and parent can possibly be in. A few tips learnt via therapies in counselling and also effective communication tips are included and hope you will find it useful.

So, cool parenting to you!!!

For counselling appointments feel free to write to me at kamakshi.gupte@gmail.com or call on 9820646229/28938155